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On the Other Side of Forty I love…a Mumcation

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As those of you who follow me on Facebook or Instagram will know, I recently spent 5 nights on beautiful Hamilton Island with 5 lovely mums from my kid’s primary school.  This the third year we have done a girl’s trip, with an extra mum and and an extra night being added on each year (I think we’ll be up to a planeload of women flying around the world for a month in a few years!) Now, before you all roll your eyes and think there is no way that could be me, let me tell you I was the same initially.  The thought of a trip away without my husband and kids sounded as fanciful to me as getting a massage from a shirtless Ryan Gosling (but enough about my dreams…)  However, after a couple of Friday night planning (drinking champagne) sessions we discovered the secret to making your desires for some me time a reality.  Now listen closely my friends, for I am about to unlock the key to your dream getaway- seven little words that may just change your life:

YOU JUST HAVE TO MAKE IT HAPPEN

Yes I’m sorry to break it to you, but your husband isn’t about to turn to you one night as you are emptying the dishwasher for the third time that day, and whisper lovingly in your ear, “Darling you look exhausted, why don’t you hop onto Trip Advisor and find a nice spot for you and the girls to go and sip espresso martini’s for a few nights.”  That ain’t happening, it’s more likely Ryan Gosling will come knocking at your door with a portable massage table.  Your darling offspring aren’t going to lift their precious heads from their iDevices and say, “Mum you do such a great job of getting us to school, soccer, ballet, playdates, and into the shower on occasion, you should have some fun with your friends, please don’t worry about us, we’ll be fine.”  Likewise your employer isn’t about to acknowledge all your dedicated hard work and suggest that you take some well deserved time for yourself while they pick up the slack.  No, all these things are unlikely to occur (and if they do occur for you, can we please swap lives?)

Going on a mumcation is akin to planning a secret reconnaisance mission in wartime- it require tactics, logistical manoeuvring and determination. For us, the date is set months in advance, and once you have all agreed on the date, and how long you’ll go for, the next important step is to choose a destination and just book it Danno! For me and my friends, we like sun, a bit of shopping, some good restaurants, and somewhere scenic to walk it all off the next day. A bonus of it being booked so far in advance, is that you can save money that you might normally spend on yourself and put it towards your mumcation, so as you don’t go into credit card shock at the end of it (I may have forgotten to take my own advice on this last point!)

Once the actual holiday details are locked in, then the real intensive planning begins. Yes, it is likely you will have to ask some people for help- the majority of dads cannot do both drop off and pick ups for school or kinder, as well as all the other activities most kids are involved with.  But guess what?  Most people are more than happy to help you out if you just ask them, and every parent likes having a favour or two up their sleeve to call on when required (I know I do).  In my case, my wonderful mother in law comes to stay- her only stipulations are a detailed running sheet of where everyone needs to be and at what time, and a fridge full of cold NZ Sauvignon Blanc (done and done!)

But that all sounds like a lot of hard work, I hear some of you ask, is it really worth it? My answer to you is a resounding Hell Yes!  On my recent trip, I felt younger, relaxed, joyful, in the moment, and free to be ME.  I laughed until I cried at least once every day (I might need to work on my pelvic floor muscles before the next trip!) Yes my liver took a bit of a pounding, but with no one to get up for in the morning- who cares?  This stuff is important in our lives, we are all much better mums, wives, daughters, employees, and friends if we get to manifest some much deserved self care and self love every now and then. Besides which, as my husband likes to say, “A happy wife means a happy life” (he can be remarkably smart on occasion!)

So there you have it, on the other side of forty it is possible to have a fantastic mumcation- it just requires ditching the mother guilt, getting some good friends together, a bit of logistical planning, and a suitcase filled with champagne (man, those Island alcohol prices are a killer!)

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Are you a fan of the girl’s trip?  If so, how do you make it happen and where do you go- I’d love to hear from you…

12 Comments on On the Other Side of Forty I love…a Mumcation

  1. Natalie
    October 28, 2014 at 2:20 am (3 years ago)

    can I please borrow your mother in law 😉 ?

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    • mel
      October 28, 2014 at 5:39 am (3 years ago)

      Sorry, I don’t do loans- she’s all mine! 🙂

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  2. Angela
    October 28, 2014 at 9:15 am (3 years ago)

    Gorgeous Pic of happy Mums…Love it!!!!

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    • mel
      October 29, 2014 at 3:48 am (3 years ago)

      It is a gorgeous pic isn’t it. It’s amazing how relaxed a mum can get with a glass of champagne in her hand and no kids in sight!

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  3. Clare
    October 29, 2014 at 3:26 am (3 years ago)

    Love it Melissa! My mum’s group have recently stepped up to nights out (our little ones are really still quite little), but I think mumcations are the next logical step.

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    • mel
      October 29, 2014 at 3:51 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks Clare. Girl’s nights out are definitely a stepping stone towards the mumcation- where else can you do all the planning? (even if it is for a couple of years time!)

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  4. Georgina
    October 30, 2014 at 8:08 am (3 years ago)

    YOLO… And the thought of a Mumcation (bliss) will get me through any bout of kiddie Gastro, Nits, Slap Cheek or School Sores! X

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    • mel
      October 30, 2014 at 9:38 am (3 years ago)

      YOLO indeed Georgina! Yes, the memory of the mumcation sustains us through many crappy things, until we simply have to begin planning the next one 😉

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  5. Carol
    October 31, 2014 at 2:09 am (3 years ago)

    It sounds intriguing to say the least, but not for that long. I’d rather have one with my husband for that long! 🙂

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    • mel
      November 4, 2014 at 10:47 am (3 years ago)

      Carol, I can relate to that- I just have to convince my mother in law to look after the kids for a girls trip and a trip with my hubby!

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  6. Claire george
    November 1, 2014 at 7:50 pm (3 years ago)

    Absolutely agree! We started with just one night annually and somehow this year (as a 40th gift) we all managed to get away for 7 nights to bali!!! I felt so guilty leaving the family but as soon as we were there it was like plugging in and getting my battery recharged. Time with friends, time with hubby, time with kids..it is all so important but easy to forget in the fast paced world we all live in.

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    • mel
      November 4, 2014 at 10:49 am (3 years ago)

      Fantastic Claire! Bali for 6 nights is our plan for next year- where did you stay? You are so right, we need to actively make time in all our relationships x

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