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On The Other Side of Forty…I love to Dance

‘Dancing enables you to find yourself and lose yourself all at the same time’

DANCING This is a word that can strike fear into your heart, or it can make your heart want to sing. Thinking back to when you were a child, or watching your own young children, it is clear that moving to music is something that our bodies want to do innately. A catchy beat comes on the radio, and little bodies can’t help but to move and spin- present in the moment, and in the joy of the music.
But along the way, we sometimes become more self conscious about who is watching us, or maybe we feel that our bodies don’t move with enough rhythm and grace, so we stop moving our bodies to the beat, and maybe just a tap of our hands or feet is all that shows we still enjoy the music within us.

For me, I discovered how much I loved to dance when I started going to nightclubs in my late teens. Like most people I enjoyed going out with my friends and having a few drinks and a laugh, but it was when the music was loud and the beat was pounding that I loved to let myself go and surrender into the moment.

Dancing was (and still is) a real time to switch off from the cares of the world and to feel a sense of connectedness to my body. I never cared about what I looked like to other people, because I was experiencing joy, and this seemed to be reflected in the people dancing around me, no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ a dancer they were.

Many years later, about 10 months after my first child was born, I remember hearing a song on the radio (A Little Less Conversation) and I just got up out off the couch and danced like I hadn’t for years…and it felt GOOD. I experienced an incredible sense of release, and was truly connected to my self, like I hadn’t been for a long time.  Once my children were all old enough to move and groove, I regularly began to enjoy the sensation of losing myself in the music, this time in my living room- with the added bonus of three little faces thinking that every move I made was awesome!

On the other side of forty, I still love to dance, and I’ve often found that switching on a fun song (we like Live Louder at the moment) can instantly alter the dynamic in our busy stressed household.  Busting out a few moves with the kids helps everyone feel connected and in the moment (even if your teenager is rolling their eyes at you- I choose to believe that all kids like having a mum who knows how to have fun!)

So don’t let dancing be another thing that you used to do back in the day, or that you never did for fear of what you looked like- whether you’re doing housework by yourself, having a drink with your friends, or cooking with the kids- put on a classic dance hit and shake your groove thing along the way!


Do you still love to dance? What songs are guaranteed to get you up and moving- either on the dance floor or the living room floor? I’d love to know…

on On The Other Side of Forty…I love to Dance

  1. Ros
    October 8, 2014 at 6:07 am (4 years ago)

    Great post – Oh my god I LOVE to dance, it totally shakes things up in our house when I’m starting to get on edge, I just throw the tunes on and tell the kids Dance Party Time.

    Our current favourites are Party Rock Anthem and Live Louder but Footloose and Take On Me are old favourites and will always get this 80’s kid dancing!

    • mel
      October 11, 2014 at 11:16 am (4 years ago)

      I hear you Ros, you can’t go past a classic 80’s hit!

  2. Michelle
    October 9, 2014 at 8:16 am (4 years ago)

    Gosh I love to dance. Always have, always will. When my daughters were teenagers they used to make fun of my dancing (and sometimes still do) but I’ve never let it stop me. Sure when I’m out I can sometimes resemble Elaine from Sienfeld but I’m usually having such a great time I don’t care. Keep dancing lovely!

    • mel
      October 11, 2014 at 11:19 am (4 years ago)

      Haha Michelle, I LOVE the Elaine dance! I never plan to stop dancing, after all one of the joys of getting older is not caring so much what other people think, x


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