Hello there! I’m Melissa Jeffcott, a certified life coach and workshop facilitator, with a passion for helping mum’s rediscover and connect with the things that give them purpose and joy as their children get older.
A bit about my journey to the other side of forty…
When I was 39, and thinking about turning forty, I felt a little bit like ‘life as I knew it’ was over. I had spent all of my thirties either pregnant, or with young children, and while there is no doubting they are my proudest achievement and my greatest joy, I often felt as if I was missing the true essence of who I was.
I had quit my never-ending part time Masters in Psychology when pregnant with my third, as the all too familiar road of chronic morning sickness, and debilitating pelvic instability, once again hit with a force. My promising career in child psychology and parent training disappeared from my radar in a blur of sleepless nights, nappies, and kinder and school drop offs.
With no family support nearby, and a husband actively pursuing his own passion-fuelled career change, the myth of ‘having it all’ proved to be just that- a big fat lie.
Now don’t get me wrong, I loved being a stay at home mum to my tribe, and I know I am extremely fortunate to have been able to have had that choice, but as some of you know, the constant ‘Groundhog Day’ routine of life at home with young children can get you down if you let it. While I was happy with my life in many ways, I felt like I hadn’t yet given myself permission or time to discover my true authentic self. Certainly I put my own wants and desires at the bottom of the pile.
As part of my 40th birthday ‘Festival of Mel’, I found myself walking along a beautiful deserted beach in north-east Tasmania, feeling a sense of peace and stillness, not usually associated with my busy noisy life at home. With no one else nearby, I found myself truly in the moment, when a voice popped into my head and said ”hello Mel-it’s nice to see you again”. I was either losing the plot, or having an Oprah ‘aha’ moment (I choose to believe it was the latter!)
I realised that in order to live your best life, you have to listen to your own needs and act on them. It is ok to put yourself first now and then!
Since then, I have been on a mission (that occasionally gets derailed by day to day life) to find my life’s purpose, and to listen to the inner guiding voice in my head (but not the inner critic). To live my life with intent, authenticity, and FUN, and to continue to grow and learn as a mother, wife, sister, friend, and most importantly as ME.
So grab a cup of tea or a glass of wine, and let me help remind you how to put yourself first, to feel good about who you are and where you’re at, and to be the most fabulous version of yourself you can be…while still being a great mum.
Want to know more about me?
Well thank you- I’m flattered! I am a certified life coach with the Beautiful You Coaching Academy, and have spent much of my life on a quest for knowledge (I also have a Bachelor of Economics and Graduate & Post Graduate Degrees in Psychology). I have worked in various fields over the years including child psychology, retail management, travel consultant, and I have plenty of experience in kid wrangling, with 7 and 10 year old girls, and a 13 year old son under my roof (oh, and a crazy sock eating German Short Haired Pointer called Otto!)
For most of my adult life, I have loved to travel around the world, with Italy and France remaining a favourite (good food and wine-need I say more). I love time spent with my girlfriends laughing, dancing and drinking champagne (I also call this book group so it sounds better). I am a big believer in exercise to clear the mind (and allow you to eat more pasta), and love Pilates, a bit of Yoga, and long walks on the beach (yes, really- I know this isn’t a dating website). Meditation is my next big thing to conquer (a bit more zen never hurt anybody).
If you want to read 10 fun (ok embarrassing) facts about me, then click here (just don’t hold them against me!)
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