Up until early last year, I would have been one of those people who had very little idea of what a life coach actually was. If I had ever heard the term, I vaguely (and I admit, judgementally) thought of someone that a certain type of woman might visit in between appointments with her personal Pilates conditioning expert and her feng-shui colour consultant. Yes, you could surmise that a life coach wasn’t something I thought ‘normal’ everyday women would utilise and gain benefit from. Well how wrong could I be? (unlike Fonzie, I am quite happy to admit when I am wrong- well, except to my husband and kids!) Life coaching is taking off in a big way (according to Australia’s Life Coaching Institute, it’s the second fastest growing industry in the world), and thanks to Skype, Facebook groups, and email support, being coached is something that is now feasible for many busy women, no matter where they live or how time poor they are.
“But why would you see a life coach, isn’t it a bit indulgent?” I hear you ask (well, I don’t really hear you, I am not a spiritual life coach!) To which, I answer: Is wanting to be a better version of yourself indulgent? A better mother? A better partner? A better friend? Since training to be a life coach, and being coached by some great coaches myself, I can honestly say that this is a service that EVERY woman I know could benefit from. This is because of one simple reason. No one, and I mean no one has got all of their shit together all of the time- not me, not you, and not even that lucky actress who recently had a baby with Ryan Gosling (do you like how I snuck him in there even though this article has nothing whatsoever to do with him!)
We all feel like we are juggling balls in the air at times, and sometimes it is inevitable that one or more of those balls will fall. In today’s society, there can be an expectation on many forty something women to be loving mothers, amazing housekeepers and chefs, wonderful wives, fun loving friends, diligent workers, carers to elderly parents, and not to mention to still be able to comfortably fit into your pre-children skinny jeans and keep the grey hair at bay (phew!) We may feel some or all of these expectations, and we might face pressure that we put on ourselves, or we receive from other people. Either way, the burden of these expectations can add up to a feeling of overwhelm and negativity pretty damn quickly.
I believe that each and every one of us has unfulfilled dreams, desires, and goals we want to accomplish, that can easily get stifled and squashed down by our busy everyday lives (I know mine did). This doesn’t have to mean that you are necessarily leading an unhappy or unsatisfying life. What it does mean, is that our non-stop day to day routines do not allow for regular opportunities to pause and reflect, and to acknowledge how certain situations make you feel, and whether there are areas in your life that you could improve.
This is where a good life coach like me (insert shameless plug!) can come to the rescue. Someone who asks you those probing questions, and gets you to think about what it is you truly want in your one precious life. In other words, how you want to FEEL. Can you think of the last time someone truly asked you how you feel (and no I’m not talking about the text from your girlfriend after the bottle of champagne you shared last weekend!) A life coach can help you discover or rediscover the things that light you up inside, that when you do them time seems to melt away, that give you energy, vitality and add richness to your life. Because, I truly believe that no matter how many kids you have, or how demanding your job is, there is still a way to live your life in alignment with how you truly want to feel. It’s just that we don’t stop and think about this stuff too often (if at all). Having someone who listens to you, really hears you, and acts as an advocate for you can be incredibly empowering, and you can certainly find out a lot about the type of person you are and who you want to become.
So thanks to life coaching, here I am, incredibly happy and fulfilled in my new career as a life coach and writer on the other side of forty. I certainly feel very privileged to now be able to help and support other women reignite their spark for life as well.
If you are interested, please feel free to check out my Life Coaching services here. Otherwise, I would love to hear your thoughts on life coaching in the comments below, x